“Being a creature unlike any other is a state of mind. Being a creature unlike any other is really an attitude, a sense of confidence and radiance that permeates your being from head to toe. It’s the way you smile (you light up the room), pause in between sentences (you don’t babble on and on out of nervousness), listen (attentively), look (demure, never stare), breathe (slowly), stand (straight) and walk (briskly, with your shoulders back).”
– Fein,.E & Schneider., S, (2012), 3rd Ed, The Rules Book 1: How to capture the heart of Mr Right.
From the above paragraph, you can see that the make up or DNA of a C.U.A.O consists of a variety of things but she mainly has a strong positive attitude about herself and the way she sees things. This blog is about Rule 1: Be a creature unlike any other, not about Rule 2 which is look like a creature unlike any other stated in the latest additional book to the Rules Books complete series. In my world of psychology we have 2 types of mind-sets that we believe exists. The growth mind-set and the fixed mind-set. This woman that Ellen and Sherrie including myself and other rules coaches describe as a C.U.A.O is of a different breed or calibre of woman compared to other women. She has a growth mind-set. She believed she could be a CUAO and therefore became one. She is unique. Her presence is effortlessly felt. This is why when Mr Right locks eyes on her, he instantly knows it’s her, he recognizes her difference.
There is some confusion or grey area in what some women believe to know about a CUAO. This is one of the reasons why I created CUAO Dating for you all. If you scroll back up to re-read the above quote from The Rules Book or get your Rules Manual out and read Rule 1 slowly, you will pick out the other components that set her apart from other average women. She has well-trained manners. She has impeccable table and dating etiquette (i.e., not slurping your drink and not burping out loud). Remember manners and etiquette are not the same thing. Manners are how you behave towards people. Etiquette is what you do when you are present under certain circumstances. It is a conduct. The creature unlike any other behaves this way at all times and therefore, carries herself as a lady! She is feminine in her gestures because she has mastered the Art of femininity. For example, we know of a commoner who is now a duchess and married to a future King who had to learn and master the art of certain princess-like conduct which included table etiquette and etc. I have a very close family relative who works under their orders and has taught me some of these conducts (i.e., the correct way of using utensils for a 7 course meal, how to present yourself in social situations and getting out of a car and etc). By law and due to codes of conduct, I cannot give you names and I like to keep my personal life private but this is indeed very true. A creature unlike any other isn’t vulgar in speech. She is smart and uses her head. She isn’t a motor mouth running on and on all the time, she knows it’s annoying, not polite and simply unlady like.
She knows that she’s flawed but has enough self-worth and confidence inside herself to know that she is a beautiful woman inside and out. Before I found the rules at age 21, I had an interesting conversation when I was age 17, I was speaking with a female friend on the grass behind my home who was complaining about her cheating ex-boyfriend and how he now treats another woman much better and I said to her, when you start asking questions like,“What is the difference that makes the same guy behave and treat 2 completely different women, differently? You will eventually get the right guy.” Clearly back then I knew it was difference but I didn’t know 100% what exactly that difference was, thanks to The Rules, women world-wide all know or if they don’t, they could be learning what we already now know even as you read this blog!
The CUAO’s mind-set is vastly different, she’s human so she may have her days of feeling not so nice and everything spice, so she uses daily affirmations. The reason we use affirmations regularly is so that we continuously remind ourselves of who we truly are – because we forget so easily and it takes a constant process of subconscious “mental reprogramming “to renew our minds into positive thinking to bring about this new positive mind – set and mental attitude! Scientists of my realm and others have proven that in regards to neuroplasticity the brain has the ability to change, that’s right ladies, your brain changes! We can train the brain to receive new thoughts and think accordingly as new neuropathways are being developed within the brain. So use those daily affirmations ladies!
Another thing a woman who is a true CUAO doesn’t compare herself with someone else. If you have to pick someone apart or find fault with someone who doesn’t deserve it, you are not a C.U.A.O loving herself and going about her business! “Where self-love entirely exists self-hate cannot co-exist, it can’t be present.” – Rachel H (CUAO Dating)
As the CUAO type of woman holds her self-image in such a positive strong light, this is how she permeates the radiance that Ellen and Sherrie spoke of within the book. Her feelings and perception of herself give her that “magic” glow! When Sherrie and Ellen say in the book that she’s not cynical and that she doesn’t go to pieces when a relationship doesn’t work out, you brush away a tear so it doesn’t smudge your make up and you move on – it’s not that it’s fake or you are a fake!
They are saying that once you become this woman, this is how you will see situations that may occur in such a manner. You still feel the emotion pass through you but as a C.U.A.O sees herself in such a way where she has developed herself internally (i.e., emotional level of resilience/ balance/ control and etc…) she has become equipped mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically to handle external circumstances in her everyday life. Thereby, if things don’t work out she still knows that she is enough, once you develop this state of mind, you will know that regardless of whatever any outcome, you are still enough! Your confidence needs to be so high that you think like Kate in terms of when reporters asked her about William, she said: “He’s lucky to have me.”
A fellow from one of my strong subject areas, William James saw the “act as if” principle like this: “The sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if your cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there.”In other words, if you were depressed before picking up The Rules Manuals/Rules Books, you cannot remain the same if you start acting as if you are happy because eventually it will have some positive placebo effect on you. WORD OF WARNING THOUGH LADIES: If you haven’t developed any of the things mentioned within this blog, then you can “act as if” for a while but afterwards it is better to become a happy C.U.A.O, because you can only fake it so long! This is why when women ask questions about being busy and manipulative with the rules, it’s not the case. We are not saying “Oh sure, lie about being busy all the time.” We actually mean and hope for you to “Go out and actually get a life, do things that are fulfilling to you, actively be busy, so go and play tennis.”
A C.U.A.O makes a daily mental choice to ensure that nothing will uproot her mental and emotional steadiness. Abraham Lincoln said “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Therefore, this positive statement and the concept you gather from the CUAO chapter in original Rules Book 1, suggests that this positive state of mind that holds confidence, the way you perceive individuals and things is a choice we can make.
I read this quote by Paramahansa Yogananda and it links in with some aspect of being a CUAO. He is quoted saying: “Remain calm, serene always in command of yourself. You will then find out how easy it is to get along.” Interesting quote again, it tells me that you can control your mood and the way you perceive things. You are only in control of yourself.
As a Creature Unlike Any Other you remain calm and serene the best way you can ladies in all situations by choice and through awareness that you can only control yourself.
“All Masters of the CUAO phenomenon, understand many fundamental principles but this fundamental principle is at the heart of being, which is: No matter how close you are to others, ladies make sure your very best friend is yourself!” – Rachel H of CUAO Dating Ltd.
Ladies, you cannot be comfortable in your own skin until you accept yourself flaws and all.
Women with low self-esteem and other women who have no self-esteem know that your level of self-esteem can spill into other areas of your life, whether you are willing to accept it or not – it’s true! I see it daily when I work with women from my other field of work and just other women in general. Not believing in yourself can leave you unbalanced and un-equipped to deal with the pressures of life. Low self-esteem or no self-esteem can cause all sorts of problems like, depression, emotionally unstable personality disorder, and even leading up to suicide. Building yourself up is very important. Ladies you have a duty to do it for yourself and because your life including your sanity depends upon it, who remembers that story of that woman who called her boyfriend over 100 times on the news and it went around on social media? Don’t be like that, develop the tools you need to be a balanced and happy woman. When you feel good, everyone else around you will feel good in your presence too. If she was a CUAO and loved herself, that man would have got nothing, no calls, no texts – nothing! Once you fall in-love with yourself (i.e, you’re not proud, self-obnoxious and 100% self-obsessed), do the work necessary to meet Mr Right and love your life as it is – everything else will follow, that’s why it’s Rule 1 because it starts at home with you. Clean up your house! Allow yourself to truly become intimate with your inner-self and have an inner experience where self-love is born leading you into the CUAO mind-set.
Many readers, ladies at a few support meetings I have attended recently have spoken a lot about their self-hate and struggling to achieve their goals and etc. This is why I have written this blog that seems to be overdue for some. I have also created a new series on my facebook page cuaodating called CUAO self-love Saturday. I will share useful tips every Saturday to help you feel better and move along on your journey towards achieving the CUAO mind-set. Alongside this, I have created two special courses just for you! The new courses are called The Dating and Feminine Etiquette and my new second course which is called, Become a C.U.A.O both courses are at affordable prices and work according to your schedule. My current clients receive an exclusive letter I write midway through the C.U.A.O course called “On My Journey “which highlights some key things and encouraging advice on their journey. It also prepares them for when we are no longer working together.
I’ve also received and launched MY OFFICIAL NEW CUAO DATING LOGO. All rights for my logo are reserved and should not be copied unless you seek the owner’s permission for fundraising or sponsorship for a charity or etc!! Big Thanks to Ms Lila.
One tip I’d like to share with you readers for your time here at my blog is to simply count your blessings instead of your troubles or perceived failures. Two people could be in the same situation right now and see their worlds entirely different. How do you see yourself and your world?
As SKY Digital (One of the biggest UK Network TV providers) say: “BELIEVE IN BETTER.” That’s right ladies, believe and then make a choice to become the better version of yourself. Don’t delay, contact me today so I can help you date better with desire, discipline and determination in order to transform into a true CUAO, stop faking it and start being it.
Special Thanks to Ellen and Sherrie and of course, my dearest readers for all your support!
Don’t forget to look out for CUAO Dating Self-Love Saturdays Tips!